“The greater the feeling of inferiority that has been experienced, the more powerful is the urge to conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation.”
Dark side of human nature is an inevitable truth, which we all needs to accept today or tomorrow. There’s always a question in our mind that why do we do the stuffs we do? This is really a tough question and our attempts to find ourselves always go in vein. Have you ever regretted any of your actions just a moment after you’ve done it? Probably yes! We all are full of secrets and mysteries. Our psychology influence most of our behavior and most of our psychology is mostly influenced by our environment. Your harsh environment can have a harsh impact on your actions as well, or an unhealthy childhood can lead to an unhealthy youth as well.
How our behavior is shaped ?
Our Surroundings Influence Our Behavior
Our surroundings play a very crucial role in shaping our actions. In a study conducted, a prion was created where people from non-criminal backgrounds were divided into two groups- prisoners and the guards. The prisoners spent their full day in prison while the guards took shift of eight hours. It was found out that eventually the behavior of guards started changing and they started torturing the prisoners emotionally and physically. The situation went so extreme that the experiment which was initially decided to last for four weeks closed up in just 6 days. The researchers were forced to end the experiment. This concluded that there’s a little evil in each one of us which is triggered by our surroundings.
We all are the Victims Between Orders and Morals
Sometimes our task stands against our morals and individual fell more prey to their responsibilities rather than their morals. In an experiment conducted, people were divided into two groups- teacher and the learners. Both were made sit in a room which was separated by a wooden board. The teacher was made to sit on one side and the learner at the other. Both were audible but can’t see each other. The teacher was told to ask questions from the learner and on every wrong answer the learner was given shock punishments (they were not given shocks in reality, however the tapes were played instead where the learners were screaming in pain). Every time the teacher hesitated giving shocks and when he was forced to do so, he does presses the button. Which suggest that he was going through a conflict between his morals and tasks assigned. Thus it was proved that sometimes our morals can be set aside to follow our responsibilities.
Our Childhood Behaviors Depicts Our Grown Up Plans
How we act during our childhood is a great indicator how we behave in our adulthood. In a study conducted, four years old kids were locked in the room with one candy with each of them. They were told that if they don’t eat the candy until the researchers return, they’ll be provided with two more candies. Some of the kids couldn’t hold back for the researchers and ate the candy, while others resisted themselves by putting hands on their eyes or looking away. The kids who didn’t ate the candies were seen more patient when grown up and did great in their future, it doesn’t meant that the one who ate them were not successful, it’s just that the percentage goes more with the second group. Our behaviors as a kid strongly shape up our future attributes.
Regret Makes us Less Focused on Tomorrow
One narrative that haunts us is that it was our fault. If I haven’t done that- he still would have been beside me, if I had stood up a little earlier- my future could have been better. I wish I would have chosen a better option, I wish I had started a little early and I wish I don’t regret today… regret is beautifully laced with fear. A lot of people live life full of ideas they never used, full of dreams never practiced, full of words never spoken and full of emotions never showed. Regretting on our yesterday always displaces our focus on our tomorrow. People with regret are always more calculative towards their actions and thus engage less time exploring the other possibilities. They are less competent than before and always try to justify their actions thus wasting the time which can be used otherwise for better growth.
Our Approach Frame Our Conversation
The way we approach the person plays a very important role in our conversations. Like if you start by asking a little, can greatly impact the response of the other person. In an experiment conducted, two people were given task to collect donations from the visitors. The person who approached them by directly saying “would you mind donating in our firm?” didn’t catch much response. Whereas the person who set the parameters and asked “would you like to donate in our firm, even a penny is good?” got a great response. Which suggest that setting a parameters and asking for help really lead the conversation well, as the people have an idea that even a penny will work and whatever they gave wouldn’t be judged by the other which made them feel free to give donations.
Thus, the dark side of human psychology is presided in our thought process. You think that you really know yourselves but frequently end up being shocked over your own actions. The behavioral adaption is the most basic underlie human behavior perspective. How we adapt our environment, conserve our thoughts and respond to our conditions can serve a great deal in understanding our mental sight. However the mental psychology or what we say human psychology remains the most undisclosed chapter as no one till date has understood the complete parameter for why we do what we do.