Feelings- a choice that’s not your own

human behaviour

Human feelings are the most eccentric as well as most basic signs of human existence. Without feelings humans are incomplete, they form the core of our body and circulate emotions within. There are basically numerous human feelings or emotions that can’t be categorized but few are the most initial feelings that human creatures carries anywhere around the world that are- sadness, anger, happiness, fear, disgust and surprise. Apart from them few additional ones are pride, shame, embarrassment and excitement. Psychologist Robert Plutchik introduced the new idea of “wheel of emotions” which in easy words works similar to that of “wheel of colours”. According to this theory emotions if combined with another can form a different type of emotion just like how colours shows different shades when mixed with each other.

Let’s study all the types of Human Behavior briefly:


Sadness is an emotional state that is deeply associated with feelings of disappointment, grief, hopelessness, disinterest, and dampened mood. It generally occurs when the current state of affairs are not favourable to you or you lost something of deep sense to you. Crying is yet another factor associated with sadness. Generally crying can be seen in both animals and humans. But animals shows occasional crying whereas in humans- it can be seen frequently. Now when do humans cry? They cry mostly in context to some stereotypical emotions. Like we cry when we lose a loved one to us. Or we had an event which was opposite to what we expected, in easy words a “counterpart”. Thus crying is actually a way of connecting and displaying your emotions in a way language cannot. It’s basically a human gesture aimed at seeking comfort or attention from others. Research has proved that when people see other people cry, they feel the sense of connectedness and a strong will to help them. It’s just a non-virtual thread connecting people together. So how much it’s a stressful emotion- crying is a happy one!  But crying sometimes make people feel worse and sometimes makes them feel good. This drives mostly from the surroundings and type of events that are happening with the one. So maybe crying really is about catharsis and the purging of negative emotions, which might otherwise be left to stew.


Happiness is yet another human emotion that is associated with the feeling of living a good life. More than a feeling it’s a trait that makes people keep on going. Happiness is mostly expressed through many signs such as facial expressions, positive body language and an upbeat pleasant tone of voice.

“Happiness is a mystery like religion, and should never be rationalized.” By G.K. Chesterton, English author (1874-1936).

Psychologists often refers happiness as a positive human behavior which can last for few minutes of even the course of lifetime. It’s an emotion connected to joy, excitement, contentment and satisfaction. This increased level of enjoyment actually boost our lifestyle which is directly beneficial for us. It is widely accepted that success brings happiness but in actual- researchers have proved that a person who is happy has a greater chance of achieving success. So more than the health benefit, happiness has many more plus points. They also are good problem solvers- happier people tend to solve problems more quickly than an unhappy person. And when it comes with such a big package of positive reactions, it’s not wrong to believe that happier people actually lives a longer and a healthier life. Happiness and health is actually directly related to each other. Positive emotions can be boosted by the acts of kindness, relationships and self-determined personality.


Anger is a very strong emotion rooted with the feelings of hostility, agitation, frustration, and antagonism towards others. It can generate fight and flight response all together. When you are angry in a situation of threat, you tend to fight back and protect yourself. Whereas this seemingly looks like a positive response, anger can also have negative actions as well. Angry people are more prone to making wrong and rash decisions. Uncontrolled anger can often ignite negative responses such as abuse or violence. It has a negative effect on your mental as well as physical health. Whereas on one hand the major share goes to the negative effects, anger can sometimes also generates positive responses. Such as it can lead to take important actions which you were gazing off. It can motivate you to find solutions to the things bothering you. It is often misunderstood the pain ignite anger but it’s actually a little different. As anger doesn’t generates from pain alone but plus some actual anger triggering thoughts like personal assessments, assumptions, evaluations, or interpretations of situations. Psychology also suggest that anger can be a substitute or distraction emotion as well. Some people who don’t want to feel pain often shows the signs of anger in order to feel distracted from their pain and here it’s not about the physical pain but an emotional pain. So it’s a very complex human emotion which is hard to predict and understand.


Disgust is an emotion not new to us. We all feel it daily for various causes and is something which differ from culture to culture and from person to person. As non veg can be delight full for one and disgust for another. Whereas rotten paled food is disgusting for everyone. So it’s like few things can vary person to person and few can be universal. Disgust is a very natural immediate response to a situation. It is often ignited with sighting of something not pleasurable which means that disgust is directly linked with what you see or smell. Poor hygiene, infection, blood, rot, and death can also trigger a disgust response- it’s simple a natural response of your body to avoid coming in contact with a things which are not favourable for your hygiene. It helps us stay away from many diseases. Thus it can sum up as a positive behavior beneficial for our own health. It’s no surprise if you’re grossed out by certain things- that is where disgust triggers.


Fear is a natural emotion and a survival mechanism. Its alert us of the dangerous situations. Signs of fear include, increased heart rates, high adrenaline rush and sweating. Now fear is of two type’s biochemical reaction or emotional response. The biochemical reaction is often triggered by our surroundings, particularly dangerous surroundings whereas emotional response is highly personal. Emotional response comes when we are introduced to something we personally fear, it can be due to past experiences of just your phobias. Because fear comprise same chemical reaction that of happiness or excitement- fear can sometimes be associated with fun, like watching a scary movie. Fear is complicated as sometimes it can be triggered by a real personal trauma or just something entirely different as to seek adventure. Both the cases includes the emotion of fear but due to different causes and outcomes. A fear from trauma is dangerous whereas a fear for adventure is fun. Thus, categorizing fear cannot limit the possibility of its coverage. May be that’s why even today, scientists have not been able to break down the emotion of fear and understand its behavior. They are confused that whether it’s an observable behavior or just something our brain is wired to do.


Surprise is usually quite brief and is characterized by a physiological startle response following something unexpected. It is often related to astonishment, wonder and shock. Some researchers sees it as a cognitive assessment while others sees it just as another emotion like anger, happiness or sadness. But if surprise is really an emotion- it’s an unusual one. Because it is actually derived from the theory of “wheels of emotions”. Surprise arrives when you encounter something extremely happy or exciting unexpectedly or vice versa. It is shaped by the experience of some other emotion. Scholars says that a surprise outcomes carry more emotional intensity than the expected outcomes. Which means that it either gives birth to emotions such as happiness or pain. Surprising success is more pleasurable than expected success, and surprising failure is more painful than expected failure. So basically it’s a win and loss emotion which arrives unexpectedly thus may bring you sadness or happiness surprisingly.

Portrait of young surprised man with opened mouth. Isolated on gray

So, basically how you feel, what you do or what emotion you choose to portray is actually not a choice that’s your own. Every emotion has a reason and a behavior which is carried out mostly by humans only and less by other living organisms. Though emotions are not in our control but they play a very critical role in how we choose to live our life. It is important to know about their backgrounds in order to have a better understanding on how you deal with them. Remember, emotions are not your choice but how you respond to it is totally your decision. 


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